Interracial Indian&Amerian Lesbian Wedding
Interracial Indian&Amerian Lesbian Wedding
Photos courtesy ONE National Gay & Lesbian Archives Photograph Collection.
nikistar666 asked: Um hello, so I'm in love with this girl. We are amazing friends and she told me that she liked me but we couldn't date at the time because she wasn't emotionally ready, I respected that. I still really like her but I fear she has moved on. She always talks about dating these guys and it makes me want to cry. I would just ask her what's up or ask her out again but I suffer from horrible anxiety and I'm to arfaid to. She is amazing and I truly think I'm in love with her. Do you have any sort of ad
That sucks. :( My advice is pretty much always communication. Talk to her - not in an accusatory way - and see what’s up. Be honest that you’re still interested in her, but going in try to also be realistic about your chances. If she feels ready to date but hasn’t approached you, there’s certainly a chance that maybe she thinks you moved on, but it sounds like there’s a pretty good chance she’s no longer interested. Then again, maybe she’s freaked out by the idea of dating a girl, and that’s why now she’s only mentioned boys. Talking to her can clear this up. It just might not give you the ending you want, which is the shitty part about love. Just remember that even if her answer breaks your heart, eventually you’ll meet a girl who will love you back at the right time.
eclecticthreads asked: Hello, I am contacting you on behalf of the Prod. team of Drunktown's Finest, a feature film with a lead actress who is transsexual. The film is currently in it's final stages and is seeking final funds through kickstarter. We are contacting you because of your affiliation in the LGBTQ community. Unfortunately I cannot post links in an ask, so please take the time to go to kickstarter and search “Drunktown’s Finest”. There is also an article on it featured in the Huffington Post blog online
I don’t normally post non-lesbian content, but I’ll make an exception just this once (mostly because I’m selfish and would like to be able to see this movie).
Anonymous asked: I am currently falling hard for my girlfriend. She's my first girlfriend, as I just came to terms with my sexuality about 5 months ago. She's wonderful and I'm finally happy. But, her last girlfriend broke her heart. She doesn't want to love again because she's afraid of the pain. So I'm stuck falling for her when I don't think she will ever fall for me. What do I do? I'm in the closet and she isn't, which I also think annoys her. Help?
Hi, anon. That sounds like a really shitty situation. :( I’m not sure what there is to do - there’s no magic solution that will make her fall in love with you as quickly as you are with her. I guess what I’d suggest is that, if you feel you want to try to see this relationship through, you show her you care about her. Maybe being in a positive relationship will get her to decide to risk loving again - then again, maybe it won’t, but at least you’ll know you did right by the girl you loved then, you know? As far as the closet issue, that’s something you can talk to her about! Find out if it really annoys her, talk the situation out with her. You might be able to negotiate something that makes that less of a problem, but you might not. She has no right to pressure you to come out, but she does have the right to choose not to be in a relationship she can’t be out and proud about.
You’re in a sticky situation and it might not work out like it would if this were a romance movie (though I wish you the best of luck in getting the Hollywood ending!). Love is tough. Outside of relationship advice, I can also suggest that you try to find other things about being into girls that make you happy, so you’re protected from losing progress in forming a positive gay identity if you break up. It’s easy to feel miserable and hate being gay when that first girl who helps us get used to our new selves breaks our hearts.
I’m sorry this isn’t more of an answer. If I had a step-by-step solution to your problem, I’d give it to you in a heartbeat.
Readers, do you have any advice?
Coming out is one of the hardest things we as queer women do, and it never ends. We will always meet new people who we’ll have to tell; there will always be people in our lives who need multiple reminders that we love other women. Coming out is a constant fight to be seen for who we are and to be ourselves in public. We come out every day, but today we take the time to reflect on what coming out means, to hold the hands of those who are coming out for the first time, to remember those who can’t yet come out themselves, and to remind the world that we’re here - if we’re safe enough to.
Some people today will try to make you believe it’s your moral obligation to be out. Here at Dykes & Dykery, we contend instead that each and every time you decide to come out, from deciding to tell your parents to deciding to hold hands with your girlfriend in public, is a deeply personal decision. Only come out when you feel ready, but when you do - come out! There are documented psychological benefits to no longer having to hide, and yes, every person’s coming out benefits us all by reminding straight people we’re everywhere and going nowhere.
If today you’re not ready to come out, I know that today can be a painful holiday. Every NCOD, I would agonize over whether this would be the day I told. I want you to know that everyone who comes out today or who shares their story today has been where you are. If you want to participate today, I challenge you to come out to yourself. Get alone with a mirror, somewhere you won’t be overheard, and say those words: I am a lesbian. / I am bisexual. / I am queer. / I LOVE WOMEN. Because more important than telling anyone else, is accepting it ourselves.
We wish you all a happy NCOD.
LAS VEGAS (CN) - A lesbian bowler claims that she was mortified when casino employees cornered her in the ladies’ room and almost made her strip to prove she is not a man.
Susan Ho sued Coast Casinos and Boyd Gaming Corporation, the owners of the Gold Coast Casino, for false imprisonment and assault in Clark County Court.
Ho, who identifies herself as a lesbian and resident of Honolulu, Hawaii, allegedly endured the confrontation while competing in the Advanced Travel Bowling Tournament at the Gold Coast Casino’s bowling center on Oct. 6, 2011.
It was around noon that day when Ho finished the ninth frame of the fifth game and went to the women’s bathroom.
"Upon entering the bathroom, another female bowler wearing a yellow sleeveless shirt and a black bottom also entered the bathroom," the complaint states.
"The female bowler paused and looked at plaintiff as plaintiff entered. Plaintiff had to explain to the female bowler that she was entering the correct bathroom.
"As plaintiff was in the bathroom, she overheard some conversation about her and knew she was going to be approached as soon as she exited the bathroom.
"When plaintiff stepped outside of the bathroom, she saw a wall of people (approximately five to six individuals) blocking the exit to the bathroom." (Parentheses in original.)
Ho says she felt intimidated and harassed because of the number of people waiting for her to leave the restroom.
The assembled employees allegedly repeatedly told Ho that she was in the wrong bathroom.
Ho said an employee named Luciana then accused her “of being a man using the women’s restroom,” pointing to the written gender designation near the bathroom entrance and then stating, “women’s.”
"Plaintiff replied, ‘I know; I’m in the right bathroom,’" the complaint states. "Luciana then curtly stated, ‘ladies’ and once again pointed to the gender designation near the bathroom entrance. This time plaintiff replied, ‘I know; I am a lady.’ Luciana again bluntly exclaimed the word ‘Ladies.’"
Ho says there was talk about removing her shirt to prove she was a woman. She said her life partner’s son also offered to bring back Ho’s ID to prove she was in the right bathroom.
At this point, however, the employees “began smirking and appeared to be reveling in plaintiff’s humiliation,” the complaint states.
Right blog this time.
Patricia Cronin, Monument to a Marriage (installed at Woodlawn Cemetery, Bronx, NY), 2006
In Monument to a Marriage, Patricia Cronin disrupts another archive, the cemetery. Installed ‘for eternity’ in New York’s smartest necropolis, Monument to a Marriage makes pointed feminist reference to the funerary sculpture through which many nineteenth-century women artists supported themselves. Sculpted in white Carrera marble, Cronin and her partner lie entwined upon a modern mattress among the memorials to the partners in and products of state sanctioned heterosexuality. By taking anticipatory revenge, Cronin out-manouevres the reality that she and her partner, Deborah Kass, could not be recognized as a family in the eyes of the American state at the time the work was made. “If I can’t have it in life,” says Cronin, “I’m going to have it in death.”
Catherine Lord, “Inside the Body Politic : 1980 - present,” Art & Queer Culture, ed. Catherine Lord and Richard Meyer (New York: Phaidon Press, 2013), 39.
2013 Soweto Pride. Credo Mutwa Park, Soweto. Johannesburg, South Africa. Photos by Zandile Makhubu and Zanele Muholi.